Marrying Black Girls for Guys Who Aren't Black
by Hagen Engler
White guy Hagen Engler had been married to his black wife for a couple of years before he realised he was still a racist! Marrying Black Girls for Guys Who Aren’t Black describes his journey from being the whitest person this side of a Smokie concert to being slightly blacker, if not visibly so. Combining anecdotes, rhymes, essays and freestyle political discourse, the book charts a personal route to an integrated society in Unit 2, Sandown Court, Johannesburg. As the newly disenfranchised minority in his lounge, Hagen has gained a fresh insight into the struggles of the oppressed. Living with a gorgeous, militant black woman has helped this armchair liberal understand cultural and economic reality and also realise that while he can appreciate the kwaito-house works of Oskido and the later releases of Letta Mbuli, he will never enjoy Basketball Wives, Kenny Lattimore, or boiled tripe. The jury’s still out on umleqwa too. Once you make your peace with skin colour, does race even exist? Or is culture what distinguishes us? What happens when a surfer/bungee-jumper/rock ’n’ roll goofball hooks up with a black-diamond struggle veteran and shoe fetishist?
It’s hard to be a neoliberal hardliner when your partner’s real-life experience undermines all your prejudices. It’s cultural exchange over the TV remote; race relations in the contested space between the sink, the toaster and the microwave, as yet another mixed marriage cocks up the race debate. Hagen Engler learns about himself and our emerging, common culture as much as his lovely black wife in How to Marry a Black Chick for Guys who are White .
He has surfed Hawaii, run the Comrades, climbed Kilimanjaro, been sued by a clown and eaten a praying mantis. So a lot of the bucket-list boxes have been ticked.
About the Author
Former editor of FHM magazine, Hagen Engler is a columnist, blogger, wordsmith and author from the mean streets of Sandton, South Africa. His skin might be white, but his soul is black. He types what he likes, braais hard and rolls deep on the interracial relationship scene. He is now out to boost his depleted feminist cred as househusband and nappie changer to the stars.
“The wit and humor of author Hagen Engler left me awestruck.” – Qaanitah Hunter, The New Age
“Hagen Engler is one of South Africa’s most under-recognised great writers. Observant, witty, sacrilegious, and highly original...” – Melinda Ferguson, True Love
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